Sometimes the past has inflicted so much pain and misery upon us that we feel emotionally crippled by what took place. There can also be a sense of depressing unfairness, of having been singled out by fate to suffer more than we can bear. The years pass by in a world that seems grey and unfriendly. How can we learn to love living again and be trusting of what lies ahead?
We know by now that the mind is the key. Our beliefs and attitudes are like tinted spectacles – if we use blue-coloured glasses, everything looks blue; in the same way, if our mind is tinted with the belief of unfairness, the past will surely seem unfair.
There is a very good way of reviewing the past which dissolves the tint of unfairness. It leaves in its place a sense of empowerment, of being in charge of our destiny or fate. The first step is to regard every disturbing event in our life as a test or an opportunity to learn. Let me explain.
When we were attending school, we studied all year and then sat for the final examination. Although the exam was somewhat unpleasant, we knew we had worked as hard as we could and were ready to take on the test. When the results came out we could see what areas would need some more study, and the following year we went on to a higher grade.
We can look at our sufferings and traumas in the same way – each one was a test of what we had learned and an opportunity to learn even more.
“But I wasn’t ready”, you might say. “I couldn’t handle what happened to me.” It is understandable you think in this way; but there is another way – a way of thinking that can empower your soul; a different vision so you can stride into the rest of your life.
The idea is to Imagine that you have lived before, several lives, even hundreds, and that you played a big part in choosing this life.
You begin by imagining that your previous life is coming to a close. The body dies and you glide out through the top of the head. After a rest of a few weeks or years, you decide you are ready for another life. You call upon your guides who’ve always been there to help and protect you. You can easily imagine all this. You go with them to the great library of Akashik records. Together you look through the history of what you have learned in each one of your past lives.
After some time you reach agreement on what it is you are ready to learn in this next life. Perhaps you are ready to be born into a family where your love will be tested severely – the parents could abuse and neglect you, or favour the other children.In order to survive you’ll have to knock on the door of your very own heart to find what is denied from outside.
Imagine that you discuss many possibilities with your guides. Perhaps you are ready to learn forgiveness, humility, courage or confidence. The guides point out that, when we get to the higher level of learning, these qualities are best learned in a difficult environment. Your guides ask if you are ready for this challenge. You assure them that you are.
Together you look down on earth, seeing the many thousands of parents you can choose from. This father will be cruel, this one will die young. This mother will neglect, this one will cling on. You can choose your parents. Then you identify the traumas and difficulties you need to have, so you can learn the lessons you are ready for. You can choose all of the events that will take place in your life. You study each one of them and confirm, “Yes, I am ready for that test. I will rise above it. I will win through.”
Like a lawyer proving his case, you refer back to the Akashic records to convince your guides that you are ready for each one of the challenges lying ahead of you. Finally they agree.
You thank the guides again for their help, say goodbye, and dive down into the world. You enter the baby in your chosen mother’s womb a few weeks before it is due to be born. In time you are born, and the journey begins.
Imagine now reliving your childhood, month by month, year by year. As each disturbing event unfolds, remind yourself that you are ready for this pain and challenge…..
Now imagine reliving your teenage years…. Hold on to your knowledge that each trauma, humiliation and loss was chosen by you so you can grow in wisdom and love…...
Imagine now entering the adult years….. With new-found strength and knowing conviction, imagine re-living each moment with a sense of mastery and purpose…...
Continue doing this until you are back in the present again.
Note: If you feel that this technique could be really valuable for you, and you would like to hear my voice guiding you through it, you can download the CD, “Letting Go Of The Past’, at www.selhelptherapy.com.au or at www.therapyycds.com.au
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